Sunday, May 14, 2017

Sometimes Mother's Day is a Bittersweet day

Once upon a time....when the private school didn't think a young man would be able to succeed in spite of his brilliance and lacking perfect eye sight and great fine motor skills....He made the honor roll!

How ironic that at a meeting where the High School principal called us in and was supposed to say David would have to leave the school because David hadn't proved himself.  Too bad for the Headmaster that meeting he had wanted didn't go as planned. David proved the Headmaster wrong and that he could and did succeed.
David constantly amazed all who knew him.
So....now that he was successful at schoolwork in a tough and competitive private school, the next step.....he was about 16...he needed a date for the prom! 

"Dating for Dummies" by Dr. Joy Browne

This mother challenged him, gave him the book "Dating for Dummies" to give him some ideas on how to find a date for the prom. Yes he laughed when he opened that birthday present!

Not only did Dave get 1 date he wound up with 2 dates and they asked another classmate who didn't have a date to join them....So the 4 went to the Prom and enjoyed a very special evening!


Pre prom pictures by our koi pond out back


❤️ Moral of the Story 1 ⇒ Never say you can't because you can. You can exceed all other's expectations of you. Any child who could and did talk in complete sentences at 6 months of age has great potential and is very special.

Waiting in Woods Hole, MA
for the Islander Ferry to Martha's Vineyard


❤️ Moral of the Story 2 ⇒ I am one tough Mother that would walk through a burning fire (yes it seemed that way at times) make sure he succeeded. Don't tell me silly things like he would never read! A mother know's her child best. A mother's love is more durable than anything.



Our first of many trips to Alaska
showing the huge cabbages grown
there with all the many hours of sunlight

❤️ Moral of the Story 3 ⇒ The power of Love and real parenting will shape the future of the world.
Love while you can....we are never promised tomorrow. ❤️

Today is Mother's Day and would have been his birthday also.  While bittersweet, I wouldn't want to lose 1 minute of the times we had with our beloved David. 



Summer horse camp
Fishing off the coast in NJ

Tuesday, November 29, 2016

Rainy days and Tuesdays....

When I'm trying to catch up on writing actually love the gray skies and sounds of the cars passing by in the rain. Peaceful day today. Tuesdays are usually the days I catch up on food blogs.  

The post tomorrow will be Paprikás Csirke better known around here as Chicken Paprikash. A lovely stew of chicken, onions and of course paprika.  It's the kind of dish that when it's simmering on the stove takes me back to childhood.  Very much a simple to make dinner that's a real family favorite.


  Paprikás Csirke on a bed of egg noodles

The rain also will often take me back and have me reflecting on life too. The one thing we never have enough of is time. Every day take the time to appreciate the little things. Yes, even when the kids are driving you bats, arguing and running around the house. You'll miss that when they're all grown and on their own! (You will have to take my word on that!) Or, you might want to read this blog Never Forget the Love and the Laughter I wrote earlier this month.

One of my favorite things when they were still at home and creating havoc, arguing like crazy I would say, "Hey let's use that energy and make some pizza." My kids love pizza! Instead of arguing still they would get out the recipe and start making the dough from scratch by hand. It never failed to distract them from whatever silliness they had been fighting over.  Instead, they started cooperating with each other and looking forward to that pizza!  Actually, we did too because they made a darn good pizza!   

homemade pizza always good and fun to make!


Don't they look like they never argued in this picture? 


One of my Favorite trips with the cherubs!

Enjoy every day and never fail to let the people you cherish in your life know they are important to you, and they are loved.  If something ever happened to you or them, wouldn't you want them to know the final words between you are "I love you"?









Wednesday, November 9, 2016

Winning and Losing


Here we sit the day after the Presidential and general elections in the United States.  Did you vote? Did your candidate win?

One of the best parts of this election is that it sparked interest back into the electoral process and voting booth; one of the worst parts is the divisiveness we are experiencing at the moment through the much too long election process.

Do you recall these historic dates? Do you recall the stories of the long fights to adjust the Constitution for inclusiveness?

  • July 1, 1971 - 18-year-olds attain the right to vote
  • August 18, 1920 -  woman gain the right to vote
  • August 6, 1965  - African Americans gain the right to vote

If you didn't vote, why not?  Complaining without voicing your opinion is wrong.  It is a citizen's right and duty to exercise the right to vote. Why complain if you didn't take advantage of voting your conscience and back up your opinions on the public questions, bills, and candidates with a vote?

Freedom is never free and we must always be vigilant to maintain our rights and freedoms under the Constitution.  The founding fathers did an incredible job of putting checks and balances into our country's Constitutional structure.  It takes 3 branches of government to propel this country forward. We vote for members of the Senate, Congress, and the President which are 2 of the branches that represent us.   Our 3rd branch is the Supreme Court. Justices are not just appointed but also need scrupulous vetting in Congress for approval. If you don't like who's in power, then your vote needs to be counted by voting for the candidates that best align with the changes you want to see for our country's future.

The Electoral College is a compromise between Congress and the popular vote in order to buffer the difference in varying sizes of states' populations and ensure fair power to all states.  Many mistake the United States to be a strict democracy but it is in fact, a Constitutional republic instead.  It is not strictly the popular vote.  The power lies in our representatives we elect and not directly in the hands of every single individual.  This is why the popular vote is at times overridden by the Electoral College.  Notice too that in the Pledge of Allegiance for the United States states that we are a Republic.





We must to heal as a country now.  America is a strong and vital country.  We have always put aside differences after the vote has been counted and worked to unify once again under a peaceful change of leadership.  That's exactly what we need to do now.  Let's come together for the sake of every one of us from all religions, all ethnic backgrounds and do what is right for to keep the Republic strong.

Remember this one point:  We are all the same race, the human race.

Monday, November 7, 2016

Another New Week, Another New Beginning

Another Monday, another new beginning and another chance to achieve success!   Are you rested and ready for the week ahead, or do you have a weekend hangover from not enough rest? Sometimes just getting out of bed on a Monday is difficult especially if you haven't had sufficient sleep enough over the weekend.

set your alarm
How do you make the most of every morning?  Is getting out of bed usually the hardest part of your day? I used to be that way but now that I'm doing what I love it's so much easier for me. 

Most people aren’t naturally what you could call a “morning person” (including me). Just because sleep doesn’t come naturally to you, there are some strategies which can help you improve the morning wake up and get off to a better start every day. If your bio-rhythms are like mine, you'll need to shift from being a night owl to more of a morning person.
Getting better quality rest will definitely improve your health. By your sleeping more and starting the day without the stress of running late you will improve your productivity and quality of your work. A bonus, have you ever noticed how much better your skin looks when you manage to do get enough good quality sleep? Think of sleep as a very affordable luxury item for yourself.

have a calm, quiet sleeping environment
Here are a few simple tips, to help you train your body and amp up your "A.M. productivity". 

Create a sleep routine – Don’t underestimate the importance of your circadian rhythm. This regulates how your body sleep and wake cycle runs. Bodies crave routine and ideally, you should wake up from a light phase of sleep, not the deeper stage. It’s that deeper stage that leads to a foggy head and low mental functioning. If you're well rested you shouldn't need to rely on caffeine to get you moving.

Set a bedtime -  Stick to the set time or at least within 30 minutes of that time.

Set a wake-up time - Get up around the same time each morning, your body will be reset to the routine slowly. The hope is that eventually, you will be able to wake yourself up without an alarm.        
Relax - Don't work, text, or stay online too close to your set bedtime. The blue light emitted from your phone or tablet disrupts your melatonin according to neuroscientists.  Let your mind and body start winding down naturally.  Make this a part of your night time ritual.  Bathe or shower before bed to further relax you even more.  Love yourself enough to get enough rest!

Be Active physically – Working out first thing in the morning may not sound appealing but the effects sure payoff. Even if it’s as simple as taking a half-hour stroll, kick-starting your morning with cardio will boost your energy levels throughout the day. The added bonus of daily activity will help you wind down at night, leading to a deeper night’s sleep.                                                                                                 
Fuel your body – While a donut and a cup of coffee may be an easy way to get your blood sugar rising, it can also lead to a sugar crash a few hours later. Instead have some higher quality fuel – oatmeal, fresh fruit, yogurt or even a veggie omelet. Always on the go? Make hard-boiled eggs that you can grab on the run for a protein-packed breakfast.                                   
Light Sensitivity – Light has a huge effect on the body’s triggers for sleep and waking up. Switch on a bright light or open your blinds right when you wake up. Conversely, avoid bright lights – yes, including electronics that will emit blue light and disrupt melatonin – for that last hour before you plan to hit the bed. This will help your body begin to wind down from the busy day and slip into that deep sleep you need for rejuvenation.

Control Temperature in the bedroom - adjust the temperature in your bedroom to the cooler side to allow yourself to snuggle in those covers.  Too hot or too cold can hinder quality sleep.

Try these tips and get some sound sleep every night! Take care of you because if you don't who will?   You're worth it!

Tuesday, January 5, 2016

Four Ways to Lose Weight Without Gym

“Eat less, exercise more.” While these wise words incorporate the most universally successful diet plan, there are several things you can do without hitting the gym to help your body fuel more efficiently. Here are four tips that will help you reach your weight goal:





CATCH MORE ZZZ’S – Giving your body a full night’s rest is one of the best ways to shed weight. A recent study showed that when participants slept for only four hours consumed an extra 300 calories compared with when they slept a full eight hours! Sleep deprivation also curbs self-control. Plan ahead and wind down your night in time to provide adequate sleep. Its benefits go far beyond losing weight.




HYDRATE, HYDRATE, HYDRATE – The human body is mostly water, which is incentive enough to be sure you’re getting the minimum eight glasses a day, but did you know water can help your diet? Drinking water helps to keep you feeling full, meaning less snacking. Downing ice water has the added benefit of boosting your metabolism, burning calories in the process of warming the water. A pre-workout hydration session will help your body release muscle-building hormones – and more muscle means a higher basal metabolic rate. If too much water bores you, look for healthy ways to change it up. A number of companies make flavored waters that are packed with helpful vitamins. Green tea has the added benefit of antioxidants and a metabolism boost that can add up to an extra 400 calories or more per week!




WATCH PORTIONS – Being a conscious eater is a good habit to develop, regardless of dieting. It takes the body 20 minutes after eating to recognize it’s full. By knowing what a serving size should be and sticking to it, you’ll be able to avoid that overfull feeling and give your body the right amount of fuel. Remember, you can always come back for more food if you’re still hungry later. When eating out, where meals are regularly double or triple the size of what your body actually needs, it may be wise to ask for half your order to be boxed up to go – it’s a great way to curb mindless eating AND stretch your delicious dish for two meals.




GET FIT WITH FRIENDS – Take positive peer pressure to the next level by checking in with friends or relatives who are also fitness minded. That healthy support system can help you make wiser lifestyle choices, from choosing more active entertainment options to skipping calorie-laden lunches or happy hours. If IRL (“in real life”) relationships won’t cut it, there are a number of free fitness forums online that provide nutrition information along with peer encouragement, from cyclist Lance Armstrong’s LiveStrong to MyFitnessPal, which recently reported a combined weight loss of 20 million pounds among its membership – simply by counting calories, exercising, and comparing notes.